My mom loved old country! I grew up on it. From Conway Twitty to Randy Travis… I can still remember most of the Lyrics to this day.
This is a song I remember singing along to as a young girl. The words were so meaningful considering I grew up without a dad… and didn’t know my worth.
Andrew was the first man to ever take me on a date. I didn’t know what a gentleman even looked like up until I met him. No man had ever opened a door for me nor did I except one to because “ I could do it myself” Over the years I didn’t leave much room for romance. I felt uncomfortable with it really. One of the first things I told Andrew after we met was “dont buy me flowers… they die.”
I regretted saying that. Because he took that literally.
Andrew knowing my past wanted to give me everything. He worked hard to make sure he could give me everything. And all I really wanted was to take back telling him never to buy me flowers.
It became more about the little things in our relationship that made me feel special, loved, desired. I didn’t have a dad to show me how a man was to treat me. I had a rather low expectation if you will of what a man looked like, a father, a future husband.
It wasn’t until we were together for four years that I admitted my desire to be married. Really it was conviction. After I became a Christian I began to realize my true worth. Who I was.
I began to desire more of the little things in my relationship and less about the big ticketed items. I wanted good communication, to be treated like a lady, to be considered by my husband… and most importantly I desired to be washed with the word (Ephesians 5:26).
We’ve had many people tell us over the years that they desire a relationship like ours. We can both attest that it didn’t come easily and we bare many scars from year’s of bad communication … marriage takes work every day.
Love is not conditional. It takes two people working at it and ultimately help from above, grace, forgiveness, mercy to be able to serve one another well.
I know that I have been blessed with one of Gods bests but even in saying that knowing and not expecting perfection from Andrew. Not putting that weight on his shoulders as I once did. I am thankful for my husband. The father of my children. My second love.
Year’s of learning and growing has allowed both of us to be honest with our needs… this song is a reminder of the little things not the big things that are important to us… to me…to her. At the end of the day… the house… the car… the clothes… the shoes… the long hours are meaningless. The heart connection is what matters to her.
So today buy her a rose… call her from work… open a door for her what would it hurt… show her you love her by the look in your eyes… These are the little things she needs most in her life! ❤️